Category Archives: pro and con

Christ versus Santa

I have always struggled with the commercialization of Christmas.  Yes it is cool, fun, cute and all, but is it supposed to be ALL about Santa.

Does anyone remember who “Santa” really was?  I felt like it was all lost.

What is Christmas supposed to be?  All these questions kept going through my mind and I was really struggling with what we should do as a family about and for Christmas. I felt it would benefit our family and our children to focus more on Christ for Christmas.  I felt it would help us grow closer to Him.

I also don’t like the idea of lying to my children when we try so hard to teach them not to lye.  Princess asked me weeks ago if Santa was real.  I explained to her how he lived long ago and was a good person who helped others.  We talked about how we pretend Santa is real now to help us keep that spirit and mindset of helping and loving others.  We then talked about sometimes parents don’t tell their kids Santa isn’t alive.  They want the children to believe in that spirit he had.  We can still believe and celebrate with that spirit but focus more on Jesus Christ.  We can celebrate His life and rejoice in His birth.

Yes there are moments I wish I could say; “you better be good because Santa is coming!” But in reality I can say; “mommy doesn’t like it when you are not nice.  It makes mom, dad, Jesus and Heavenly Father sad.  Can you try to be nice to your sister?”  The latter helps them understand instead of tricking or forcing them to be good.  I feel it helps them build a relationship with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ when we talk of them as people.  Helping them realize their actions have consequences, although small and simple, they know when they are not nice, we are sad.  Just as we are happy when they are good.  (Yes, when I tell them I’m proud of them I also tell them Heavenly Father and Jesus is proud of them.)

Christmas needed to be CHRISTmas for me.  I wanted the focus to be on the Only Begotten of the Father, the Savior of mankind, the Beloved, our brother.

Please know, we do not judge others whether the celebrate Santa or not.

This is just our personal path.

Pros and Cons

For homework last week I was asked to list five pros and five cons about myself.  This may not sound to hard, but it was incredibly difficult! I struggled all week and found myself still working on it yesterday, all day, before my session.  I felt like writing a con about myself on paper only solidified and enhanced the negative quality.  The last think I wanted to do!

The pros were a little easy until I wrote three down.  I could not think of more, and honestly, I felt like I was being prideful when I wrote those three.

How could I come up with more when we are encouraged not to be prideful? 

Lets first look at the definition of prideful:

a. disdainful, haughty; b. exultant, elated

In aknowledging possitive qualities in yourself, you are not raising yourself above others or judging them.  You are simply noticing some of the gifts Heavenly Father gave you.

My pros and cons:

  1. I am easily agitated
  2. I’m shy
  3. I don’t feel pretty
  4. I’m overweight
  5. I cannot run
  1. I like to make people happy
  2. I can cook, and am pretty good
  3. I have pretty eyes
  4. I have empathy for others

Have you ever made a list?  Was it hard for you?