Category Archives: self-esteem

We Believe Wednesday-The Sweet Struggle

I’ve really struggled with what to say today. Hence why it is really Thursday and I’m writing my Wednesday post.

Today has been a hard. One where I wanted to shut everyone and everything out, right from the start. With teaching, we are all still trying to adjust to the new schedule. My three little ones get woken up around six o’clock in the morning, needless to say we are all overtired.

I have this little part of my brain (okay, big part) that wants everything to be perfect. Yes, I know it’s not happening soon. I want the house to be clean, no clutter, happy kids who never fight and take naps… I want to be a good wife, good mom, good daughter, food granddaughter, Continue reading

We Believe Wednesday-One of the Three

Today’s post is inspired from questions a friend asked about my beliefs.  Always feel free to ask me questions!

We believe in God, the Eternal Father, and in His Son, Jesus Christ, and in the Holy Ghost.-Articles of Faith 1

As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we believe in Heavenly Father, Jesus Christ and the Holy Ghost are separate distinct beings.  We refer to the three of them as the Godhead.  Today, I want to talk about the Holy Ghost (some people refer to him as the Holy Spirit).

I believe the Holy Ghost has the ability to influence ALL people who strive for good.

The Holy Ghost helps us recognize and comprehend truth. He also gives us spiritual strength and comforts us in times of trials. In John 14:26 it says; “The Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.”

In John 3:5 Jesus was talking to Nicodemus, a Pharisees, and said “…except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.” While we believe all have the opportunity to feel the Holy Ghost, we believe that in order to have him with you at all times, one would need to be baptized and then given the gift of the Holy Ghost.

I invite all wanting to know more about the Mormon church to consider meeting with the missionaries.  They devote 18 months to two years to serving Heavenly Father’s children and to teach others of Jesus Christ, as well as helping those they teach have a stronger relationship with Him.

We Believe Wednesday-Being Modest

Well, modestly seams to be a touchy subject.  For me, it is black and white.  I teach my children that it is important to be modest.  We teach them from the time they are born on, because in my mind, there is not other option.

Why?

We respect and love ourselves.  We respect and love our Father in Heaven.  We show this by being modest in dress, grooming, language and actions.

We teach our children to keep their bodies covered.  We don’t run around showing our underwear.  We don’t pull our shirts up to have our tummy showing.  We wear shirts under dressed or other shirts that don’t cover the shoulders.  We wear dresses, skirts and shorts down to the knees, or longer if they like. We feel this is important to teach our children, girls and boys, how to dress when they are young so they can govern themselves as teens and adults.  The specifics we choose to set in covering our bodies will become important when our children wear garments as an adult.

You may be wondering what garment I’m talking about.  Many religions wear clothing to show their faith, their position in church, or as a personal reminder beliefs.  As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we wear white underclothing, similar to shorts and T-shirts, as a personal reminder of our faith and the covenants we have made with Heavenly Father. Also, as a bishop, preacher, pastor, reverend and others usually wear clerical clothing, our church is a lay ministry. As our congregational leaders have an occupation outside of their role in the church.  Wearing the garment has some of the same advantage you may draw from clerical vestments. Due to employment in different occupations, we wear ours under the clothing instead of outside.

We teach our children to take care of their body.  We bathe, brush hair, teeth and take care of our bodies.

Language can affect everything.  We strive to teach our children to be polite and gentle in their words.  Yelling, name calling and rude tones are things we strive to keep away from our home.  We all struggle at times (after all we are not perfect), but we feel it is important to respect others with our words.

I believe we show respect to ourselves, our family, our friends, and our Father in Heaven when we are modest in our lives.

If you want some tips for trendy modest clothing, I suggest you follow of these Instagram accounts: Modest Mormon Girls; Dressing Dallas; and Modest Mormon.

How are you modest? 

The Flower Confession

As much as I like to pretend to not be girly, at all.  I really have somethings which cannot be denied.

I love flowers!

I love them on bushed, trees and in fields.  I love when my girls pick tiny little flowering weeds for me.  I love flowers at the supermarket and at the grocery store.  I love seeing a vase on my table with flowers.  It doesn’t have to be any particular flower.  I just love how they change the mood.  They bring smiles to peoples faces.  Flowers can light up a dreary day.

I love seeing my girls wake up and find that mommy bough flowers at the store the night before.

Wouldn’t you like to wake up to flowers on the table?

Why is this a confession?

Well, I can’t walk past the floral department in any Krogers, without looking to see what flowers they have on clearance.  On top of that, if they have some for one or two dollars, I can’t walk away.

Tonight, that rings true again.  They had several bunches on sale for four-dollars or more, but they had one small group for only one-dollar.

Tonight’s find for one-dollar:

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Here is my previous find.  There were three bunches, all for just one-dollar:

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Tiny was too excited to hold still, so I had to help her hold them.

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Princess was thrilled to have her own “vase’ of flowers, which was just a cup.

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Boundaries and Borders

I have always had a hard time with saying “no.” Several times as a young single adult, I would drive to Oklahoma just to return phone calls and say:

I’m sorry, but I’m out of state right now and unable to help.

I would drive about an hour north on I35 to Thackerville, Oklahoma. It is just over the boarder. There is a little playground there, I would play and return my hard phone calls.

Last night in counseling we discussed boundaries. We all need to have them set. We shouldn’t feel guilty about setting them and keeping them firm. We are taking care if ourselves with them.

Karen showed me one of the following videos and asked me to look up the second one. I wanted to share them in the hope it would help you as well.

Pros and Cons

For homework last week I was asked to list five pros and five cons about myself.  This may not sound to hard, but it was incredibly difficult! I struggled all week and found myself still working on it yesterday, all day, before my session.  I felt like writing a con about myself on paper only solidified and enhanced the negative quality.  The last think I wanted to do!

The pros were a little easy until I wrote three down.  I could not think of more, and honestly, I felt like I was being prideful when I wrote those three.

How could I come up with more when we are encouraged not to be prideful? 

Lets first look at the definition of prideful:

a. disdainful, haughty; b. exultant, elated

In aknowledging possitive qualities in yourself, you are not raising yourself above others or judging them.  You are simply noticing some of the gifts Heavenly Father gave you.

My pros and cons:

  1. I am easily agitated
  2. I’m shy
  3. I don’t feel pretty
  4. I’m overweight
  5. I cannot run
  1. I like to make people happy
  2. I can cook, and am pretty good
  3. I have pretty eyes
  4. I have empathy for others

Have you ever made a list?  Was it hard for you? 

A little Background

I have struggled with self-esteem and a quick temper for as long as I can remember.

Having three little ones four and under have only increased my awareness of these problems.  It has also increased my desire to resolve them.  I do not want my girls growing up thinking they aren’t beautiful, smart, funny, and talented in the one-million ways I see them now.  I want my son to understand how to love and respect women because I love and respect myself.

After B was born in June 2013, I had an incredibly hard time controlling my temper, getting sleep, eating right and well, pretty mud everything. I constantly felt overwhelmed.  In November 2013, I started seeing a councilor again.  Yes, again. It had approximately five years since I had seen one.  I never really resolved anything with those sessions, I just ended up too overwhelmed with getting married and school.  I was newly married, in school, and then pregnant, so I stopped.  A few weeks ago I found out I struggle with postpartum depression.

I love my councilor!  She has been wonderful, hard, honest, loving, and most important-loving.  I have decided to put some of my homework on the blog.  This is to both help it sink-in and get me back into blogging.  I have not picked back up after I loosing everything.

Feel free to ask questions, make comments here, or completely ignore me.